See a New Way

​“Can anything be sadder than work left unfinished?  
​Yes; work never begun.”
- Christina Rossetti

They say no two snowflakes are the same, which is a horrible metaphor for a sweltering August, but my resolve was just as flimsy.
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I sat down to write my recent newsletter (here), and let it percolate for a bit before sending out (which is a great writer tip: time away from a piece provides new eyes, and deepens the message, kinda the way leftovers can be better than the original meal).

Anyway I wrote this piece sent it out over the webs then read my good friend’s piece.  Gah!  I  basically wrote the same thing - unknowingly -  and I felt like I had to rescind mine.

I did have a flicker of thought: Wow, we are on the same page;  thatʻs cool; this must be coursing through the ethnosphere, or at least an antidote to what is coursing through the ethnosphere. 

With chagrin transparency, I texted Marissa Polselli, author, coach and friend:
Me: “And by the way, my newsletter is your blogpost, basically. If I had read it before sending, I would have deleted it {mortified emoji}.”
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Marissa: “And why would you have deleted your newsletter? It’s the message that matters. The more people who hear it the better - doesn’t matter from who  {heart and flower emojis}.”

First, when you see people talk about tribe on Facebook this is what women need. Soul circles mean shit unless you are circling around the depth of integrity and honesty displayed here from a newly re-ignited friendship with an old friend. Secondly, her love shone on a wound of mine and shattered it. She didn’t poke at it; she loved it whole -  in a text. 

This is also a great example (made by me) of attempted self-sabotage. Why? Because the post I wrote delved into my personal life, something I rarely do, and I was feeling vulnerable about it —eventhough I was getting responses back from my readers that were loving and resonant. So the “scared” me was looking for any excuse to wrong myself for being so vulnerable, and I was blessed to get loved up instead of getting shamed.

Have you ever heard that you will keep getting tested until you are clear?

About 48 hours later, a  colleague emailed me (and others) to contribute to what is bound to be a deep and supportively delicious online offering — I was stoked. A millisecond later I thought: Well, her online offering will be better than the one I am working on (What’s Your Story is a new offering, launching  September 30th; I am scared and stoked at the same time) — and then I heard myself. I went right back to my incident with Marissa and I told myself: No more. We’re done.

“A real decision is measured by the fact that you’ve taken a new action. If there’s no action, you haven’t truly decided.” – Tony Robbins

I emailed creative author/artist and friend Michel Damini Celebre that I would be honored to support her new online offering and that I was launching my own in September, the first of its kind. And just like that it was done, for the moment; I choose a new way to see: perception is reality.

Life is always - and in all ways- calling us to more. What tiny step are you taking today to set up a better tomorrow?

We’re cheering you on.
​All the best,
​Kate